The more you open your life up for display, the more people find a way to drag you down. It’s a natural sociological phenomenon. There’s something powerful about disappearing and working in the shadows. Becoming unavailable and committing to becoming the next version of yourself in secret can be exhilarating because you know that when you reappear, your transformation will shock the world. Funny thing is, when you do, you won’t care because you’ll learn in the shadows that the only opinion that matters is yours.
How to Disappear the Right Way
Shut Your Mouth
- Your mouth betrays you more than you know. You need to get it under control.
- Stop speaking openly about your life to anyone except your life partner, if they support your success.
- Catch thoughts before they leave your mouth and become a mystery to everyone.
Only Care What You Think
- Reprogram your mind to not care what others think. Most people don’t care about you, but you think they do, which influences your actions.
- Create a person in your mind (you) and obsess over what that person thinks about you.
- This will make you less of a puppet and more in control of your own life.
Hide Your Plans
- Keep your ambitious plans to yourself. Sharing plans with others reduces your chances of accomplishing them.
- Be surgically intentional. Seek advice only from the right person, reveal the bare minimum, and obtain the knowledge you need before disappearing again.
Hide Your Progress
- Progress will come, but don’t show it off. Focus on progressing even more.
- Disappearing is worth it only if you complete the entire transformation. Sharing progress too soon can reverse your achievements.
- Use the energy from wanting to share to fuel your efforts further.
Hide Your Tears, Blood, and Failures
- Crushing it in the shadows is tough. You’ll face physical pain, mental fatigue, and failure.
- Handle these challenges alone. Let each moment of rock bottom catapult you to another level of performance.
- Embrace the pain as part of your transformation.
Transforming in the Shadows
- Pick Your Targets
- Be specific about what you want to transform. Know exactly what you want to achieve.
- Write down your goals and place them where you can see them, but ensure no one else can.
- Revolve Your Life Around Crushing It
- Plan every waking hour to drive towards your goals. Be obsessed and intentional.
- Move close to resources that aid your transformation, like gyms or classes.
- Time box your day to spend hours on your transformation and regularly update and track your progress.
- Reprogram Your Mind
- Happiness is crushing it. Learn to love the disappearing act and the pain of not being seen.
- This shift in thinking is part of your positive transformation. Embrace it to help the change occur.
The New You
After accomplishing your transformation, reappearing back into society is something you won’t need anymore. You’ll have become one with the shadows, continuously pushing towards bigger and better goals. You will remain a mystery to most, finding peace in the shadows and enjoying your new life far more than before.
Conclusion
Disappearing and working in the shadows can be a powerful method for personal transformation. By shutting your mouth, only caring about your own opinion, hiding your plans and progress, and embracing the pain, you can achieve incredible growth. Be specific about your goals, obsess over them, and reprogram your mind to love the process. When you reappear, you’ll have become a new, improved version of yourself.
FAQs
Q1: Why is it important to disappear and work in the shadows? Disappearing allows you to focus on your transformation without external influences or distractions, leading to more profound personal growth.
Q2: How can I stop caring about what others think? Create a person in your mind (you) and obsess over what that person thinks. This helps you become less influenced by others’ opinions.
Q3: Why should I hide my plans and progress? Sharing plans and progress can reduce your chances of success and reverse your achievements. Keeping them hidden helps maintain focus and motivation.
Q4: How do I handle the pain and failures in the shadows? Embrace the pain as part of your transformation. Handle challenges alone and let each moment of rock bottom push you to a higher level of performance.
Q5: What happens after I accomplish my transformation? You may no longer feel the need to reappear in society. You’ll find peace in the shadows and continue pushing towards bigger and better goals.
